Frequently Asked Questions

I am answering a lot of these questions lately and thought that it would be best that I make a list of those questions and answer them here; because frankly it’s beginning to get VERRRRY repetitive and kind of boring to keep answering these over and over again. Now don’t you get me all wrong, I am very, very grateful to have so many friends, family and well wishers back home who want to be updated and know what’s happening in my life and I do love them all. (Things I am grateful for: Reason #5)

Here goes:

  1. Hey, How are you doing?
    Answer: Very well, thank you? How are you doing?
  2. How’s NZ?
    Answer: It is so beautiful, scenic, and serene that every time I look around to take in the magnificence that surrounds me, I have to pinch myself to know that I am not dreaming.
  3. Are you working?
    Answer: No, not yet.
  4. How’s the weather there?
    Answer: It’s the end of Summer. It’s about 15 degrees during the day time and about 13 degrees at night. But it’s soooo windy (WINDY) that it feels much colder. To someone like me who has lived in hot and humid (but wonderful) Mumbai all her life, it feels a lot colder. Day before yesterday, it was so windy that the whole house was rattling up. NO KIDDING. Didn’t I tell you before how windy the city is? And we can rarely keep the windows open. It also keeps raining in between.
    P.S: Don’t know if this is Summer, how harsh the winter will be?
  5. Are you working?
    Answer: No, not yet.
  6. How is your hubby (I absolutely detest this word) doing? Where does your hubby work?
    Answer:  My husband is doing good too. My husband works with the Government here as a Business Analyst.
  7. Is TCG his real name?
    Answer: Oh it’s just an epithet!
  8. Are you working?
    Answer: No, not yet.
  9. What do you do all day?
    Answer: I read, write, cook, clean, exercise, wait for TCG to get back and for my family back home to wake up so that I can Skype with them. In short, living an underrated life of a humble housewife.
  10. Are you working?
    Answer: No, not yet.
  11. Are you looking for a job?
    Answer: Not yet
  12. Do you have work Visa?
    Answer: No, Will apply for it in a couple of days.
  13. How long will it take to get your work Visa?
    Answer: It should take 3-4 weeks
  14. Will you get a job easily?
    Answer: It’s not easy but I am hoping I will get lucky, but  my previous work experience in India won’t count. (I know, I know that is very sad). SO I will have to start from scratch (Sigh).
  15. How’s the climate there?
    Answer: Refer to answer 4.
  16. Are you working?
    Answer: No, not yet.
  17. How are the people there?
    Answer: Warm, friendly and smiling
  18. Did you make friends?
    Answer: No not yet, I made acquaintances though.
  19. How do you spend time then?
    Answer: Refer to answer 9.
  20. Does it get lonely?
    Answer: Sometimes it does, but I am not complaining. Yet.
  21. Are you working?
    Answer: No, not yet.
  22. Are there many Indians around?
    Answer: There are few, but I am sure there would be more
  23. Why don’t you join some social group or community or something?
    Answer: I will do that sometime in future. As of now, I am pretty ok.
  24. Did you play Holi?
    Answer: NO
    Holi is an Indian spring-time festival where you colour your friends and family
  25. WHY?
    Answer: Just
  26. But Why? At least you should have put some colour on TCG?
    Answer: Ok, but I didn’t
  27. Oh, poor you! You would have missed Holi!
    Answer: Now, please rest it. Holi has never been my favourite anyway.
  28. You should probably do this/that/A/B/C/D…etc… in your free time
    Answer: Hmmmm…
  29. Are you working? (Sigh)
    Answer: No, not yet.
  30. But why are you not working? You were always so ambitious?
    Answer: Refer to answer 12 and 13
  31. Ok, but are you gonna stay there forever?
    Answer: I wish I knew, but I really don’t as of now.

Things I am grateful for: Reason #1

It happened somewhere last year. The shift in my personality, the change in the pattern of my thoughts and the ensuing peace of mind. I stopped struggling with my thoughts and I tried to see things in a new positive light. Whatever-happens-happens-for-good kind of way. There were times in life, not too long ago from now, when I was at the lowest pit, angry with myself more than anyone else for poor choices I made, the consequences that followed, for things that didn’t go as I planned and for general directionless. Not anymore.

So what changed? Nothing really, but I consciously decided to change the way I think. If you have read “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne, you will know what I mean. It is an outstanding book, not your run-of-the-mill kind of self help book. It’s a must read. Because it doesn’t say anything out of ordinary or undoable. It gives a simple yet powerful message that our thoughts become our reality. So in order to change our life, we need to change our thoughts. For example, if we keep thinking that life is miserable, guess what, life will be miserable.  It says that if we are grateful about things that we have, the person we are, the life we live, the things we enjoy then those wonderful things will multiply. And if not anything else, being grateful makes you happy and content deep within. This has worked for me. I am sure it will work for you also.

If we ever sit back and think how many things we take for granted, we will realize there are indeed thousands of things we could be grateful for. I have started doing that. And this has changed me as a person. I am now more grateful for little things that life brings forward. I crib less; I am trying to be happy in every new situation. I am happy living alone for 10 hours every day in a new country, in a new big home, in a home that is on the hill, away from the city, where there is absolute silence and no one to talk to until the husband comes home. Oddly, I am at peace. If I was in this situation 2 years ago, I would have most certainly been crying or cribbing or complaining. But this new me is happy and content.

With this, I am starting a new column on my blog, “Things I am grateful for”. As often as possible, I will come here and list things that I am absolutely grateful for.

Reason #1:

I am so grateful for this new day. Thank God for this new beautiful day. A bright, promising day. I am grateful that I got to live another splendid day. That means you have a big plan. That means there is a purpose why I am here. That means that I am meant to do something good and contribute in some way. That means my questions will be answered soon, my fears will be cast away soon and my doubts will be cleared some day. That also means I will get a chance to make new mistakes, and learn from them.  May be today I am not in a position to understand why some things are happening the way they are, but eventually everything will fall in place, and when I will look back in retrospect I will realize everything happened for a bigger reason.  I might meet someone new today, make a new friend, learn something new, do something silly. And all this is possible only because you gifted me this new day. Thank you so much.

Here’s a short video on gratitude from “The Secret”

From The Secret Daily Teachings

When a big change occurs in your life it forces you to change direction. Sometimes the new path may not be easy, but you can be absolutely certain that there is magnificence for you on the new path. You can be absolutely certain that the new path contains things that you could not have experienced otherwise.

When we look back at a negative event that occurred in the past, we often see how in fact it transformed our life. We see how that event directed us toward a life that we would not change for anything.

 May the joy be with you,

Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing joy to billions